★★★★★Members and readers of the method inside the book
Susan Gess● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
No longer needed help
Had an appointment with western medicine… 11 weeks later I no longer needed help
A
Aileen, 82● Facebook comment
★★★★★
It's never too late
There has been a vast improvement in my capacity to control bladder leaks. I'm 82, I've had these bladder leaks for a few years… I will say that it's never too late.
Maggie Hanlon● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Leaks and urgency fixed
It fixed my leaks and urgency — and I lost 20 kgs (44 lbs)
C
Casey K Peckover● Facebook comment
★★★★★
First thing that actually worked
This is an excellent program. First thing that actually worked.
Trudy Woodlands● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
After 3 specialists
3 specialists couldn't help, so I joined. Rectocele better, and I also lost 10 lbs
S
Sereda K McLaughlin, 66● Facebook comment
★★★★★
More control after a few workouts
After a few workouts, I feel stronger in my pelvic, I feel more control. This is a fabulous program.
Britney Bouldin● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
18 years, now gone
I had painful sex for 18 years. Now that's GONE!
C
Charlotte Woodland● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Got me back to myself
This program helped me tremendously… This program got me back to myself and a stronger pelvic floor.
Susan Gess● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
No longer needed help
Had an appointment with western medicine… 11 weeks later I no longer needed help
A
Aileen, 82● Facebook comment
★★★★★
It's never too late
There has been a vast improvement in my capacity to control bladder leaks. I'm 82, I've had these bladder leaks for a few years… I will say that it's never too late.
Maggie Hanlon● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Leaks and urgency fixed
It fixed my leaks and urgency — and I lost 20 kgs (44 lbs)
C
Casey K Peckover● Facebook comment
★★★★★
First thing that actually worked
This is an excellent program. First thing that actually worked.
Trudy Woodlands● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
After 3 specialists
3 specialists couldn't help, so I joined. Rectocele better, and I also lost 10 lbs
S
Sereda K McLaughlin, 66● Facebook comment
★★★★★
More control after a few workouts
After a few workouts, I feel stronger in my pelvic, I feel more control. This is a fabulous program.
Britney Bouldin● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
18 years, now gone
I had painful sex for 18 years. Now that's GONE!
C
Charlotte Woodland● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Got me back to myself
This program helped me tremendously… This program got me back to myself and a stronger pelvic floor.
Susan Gess● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
No longer needed help
Had an appointment with western medicine… 11 weeks later I no longer needed help
A
Aileen, 82● Facebook comment
★★★★★
It's never too late
There has been a vast improvement in my capacity to control bladder leaks. I'm 82, I've had these bladder leaks for a few years… I will say that it's never too late.
Maggie Hanlon● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Leaks and urgency fixed
It fixed my leaks and urgency — and I lost 20 kgs (44 lbs)
C
Casey K Peckover● Facebook comment
★★★★★
First thing that actually worked
This is an excellent program. First thing that actually worked.
Trudy Woodlands● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
After 3 specialists
3 specialists couldn't help, so I joined. Rectocele better, and I also lost 10 lbs
S
Sereda K McLaughlin, 66● Facebook comment
★★★★★
More control after a few workouts
After a few workouts, I feel stronger in my pelvic, I feel more control. This is a fabulous program.
Britney Bouldin● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
18 years, now gone
I had painful sex for 18 years. Now that's GONE!
C
Charlotte Woodland● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Got me back to myself
This program helped me tremendously… This program got me back to myself and a stronger pelvic floor.
Susan Gess● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
No longer needed help
Had an appointment with western medicine… 11 weeks later I no longer needed help
A
Aileen, 82● Facebook comment
★★★★★
It's never too late
There has been a vast improvement in my capacity to control bladder leaks. I'm 82, I've had these bladder leaks for a few years… I will say that it's never too late.
Maggie Hanlon● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Leaks and urgency fixed
It fixed my leaks and urgency — and I lost 20 kgs (44 lbs)
C
Casey K Peckover● Facebook comment
★★★★★
First thing that actually worked
This is an excellent program. First thing that actually worked.
Trudy Woodlands● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
After 3 specialists
3 specialists couldn't help, so I joined. Rectocele better, and I also lost 10 lbs
S
Sereda K McLaughlin, 66● Facebook comment
★★★★★
More control after a few workouts
After a few workouts, I feel stronger in my pelvic, I feel more control. This is a fabulous program.
Britney Bouldin● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
18 years, now gone
I had painful sex for 18 years. Now that's GONE!
C
Charlotte Woodland● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Got me back to myself
This program helped me tremendously… This program got me back to myself and a stronger pelvic floor.
Alison Stuckey● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Life changing
It has been life changing for me… by day 10 or 15 I wasn't worried I was going to leak
L
Lali F-Rafa● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Sleeping the whole night
Really works!!!! I am so grateful Kim. I can sleep whole night long
Lisa● Used the method
★★★★★
No more pads
I am so much better I don't wear pads anymore
M
Mary Wolanski Gaudet● Facebook comment
★★★★★
A huge difference
Great program. It's made a huge difference in my life. Thank you ❤️
Fay Isaac● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Fewer leaks by day 16
Only on day 16: having fewer leaks, and my stubborn back pain, hip pain and ankle pain disappeared
K
Karen Mulder● Member email
★★★★★
Results already
Yes, I have. I can see results already. I can't wait to get even better.
Denise● Used the method
★★★★★
Not a problem anymore
Now I don't feel I have incontinence problem anymore
A
Alla Bevzenko● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Solid and actual help
These are fantastic because they work. Fantastic in the sense of no unicorn, no crazy expense, just solid and actual help!
Jackie● Used the method
★★★★★
Back in control
I have gotten complete control over my bladder now
L
Lisa Kempson● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Simple and easy
I feel extremely supported and confidence that this won't be a problem for me any longer! I love that you make the exercises, simple and easy, they are now part of my daily life
S
Sarah● Used the method
★★★★★
No more wet pants
I used to have wet pants
L
Leah Banicki● Member email
★★★★★
Finally understood why
I haven't found a good doctor who is willing to listen to my concerns, and you really helped me understand what's happening, and the root causes.
Alison Stuckey● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Life changing
It has been life changing for me… by day 10 or 15 I wasn't worried I was going to leak
L
Lali F-Rafa● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Sleeping the whole night
Really works!!!! I am so grateful Kim. I can sleep whole night long
Lisa● Used the method
★★★★★
No more pads
I am so much better I don't wear pads anymore
M
Mary Wolanski Gaudet● Facebook comment
★★★★★
A huge difference
Great program. It's made a huge difference in my life. Thank you ❤️
Fay Isaac● Buff Muff member
★★★★★
Fewer leaks by day 16
Only on day 16: having fewer leaks, and my stubborn back pain, hip pain and ankle pain disappeared
K
Karen Mulder● Member email
★★★★★
Results already
Yes, I have. I can see results already. I can't wait to get even better.
Denise● Used the method
★★★★★
Not a problem anymore
Now I don't feel I have incontinence problem anymore
A
Alla Bevzenko● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Solid and actual help
These are fantastic because they work. Fantastic in the sense of no unicorn, no crazy expense, just solid and actual help!
Jackie● Used the method
★★★★★
Back in control
I have gotten complete control over my bladder now
L
Lisa Kempson● Facebook comment
★★★★★
Simple and easy
I feel extremely supported and confidence that this won't be a problem for me any longer! I love that you make the exercises, simple and easy, they are now part of my daily life
S
Sarah● Used the method
★★★★★
No more wet pants
I used to have wet pants
L
Leah Banicki● Member email
★★★★★
Finally understood why
I haven't found a good doctor who is willing to listen to my concerns, and you really helped me understand what's happening, and the root causes.
Part 1 — Start Here: Common Is Not The Same As Normal
Pages 13-16 · Common is not the same as normal · tap to read
Why "common" got confused with "normal" — around 40% of women report at least one pelvic floor problem, and why that number is exactly why nobody talks about it (page 13)
Why Kegels alone fall short: the research shows most women are doing them incorrectly, and the one thing they never train that makes all the difference (page 14)
Put a name to it: stress incontinence, urgency, urinary frequency, overactive bladder, prolapse, anal incontinence — defined in plain language so you finally know what you're dealing with (page 15)
The tight pelvic floor nobody warns you about — and why, if months of squeezing made things worse, this is probably the reason (page 17)
Low back pain? Over 95% of women with it have some form of pelvic floor dysfunction — here's the connection (page 17)
Part 2 — Your Pelvic Floor: What It Is And What It Does
Pages 17-19 · Low back pain, then Part Two: your pelvic floor · tap to read
The five jobs your pelvic floor does every day — it's not just about "holding things in" (page 22)
The Core Four: why your pelvic floor is only one piece of a four-part system — and what happens when the other three aren't doing their job (page 24)
Pressure, and how we manage it: the everyday habits quietly adding load to your pelvic floor all day long (page 26)
Weak, tense or uncoordinated? Three very different problems that get the same "do your Kegels" advice — and why that's the mistake (page 28)
Your cycle, your hormones, and what changes at menopause — and what to do differently at each stage (page 32)
Part 3 — What You Are Dealing With
Stress incontinence vs. urgency vs. overactive bladder — and why the distinction matters for how you treat it (page 37)
Urinary frequency: what is actually normal — and the trained behaviour that's making you go more than you need to (page 40)
Prolapse, what it actually is — how common it really is, living with it, and where pessaries and surgery fit (page 42)
A pelvic floor that is too tight, and what to do about tension — including sex, pain and sensation (page 45)
Anal leaks and urgency — the symptom nobody talks about, and when to see a provider (page 49)
Part 4 — The Foundations
Hydration and bladder irritants: the drinks and foods quietly driving urgency — and what to swap them for (page 57)
Bowels, constipation, and how to use a toilet — the toilet habits silently worsening your symptoms, and the simple adjustments that bring immediate relief (page 60)
Posture and alignment: how the way you stand, sit and move loads or protects your pelvic floor (page 64)
Talk to your bladder and ride out the urge — the retraining that stops the panic-dash to the bathroom (page 66)
Managing pressure when you lift, cough, sneeze or laugh (page 69)
Part 5 — The Work
Pages 73-76 · Retrain before you train · tap to read
Retrain before you train: the order you do this in matters more than how hard you work at it — the step most women skip entirely (page 73)
Releasing tension first: three ways to let go of an overactive pelvic floor before you ever think about strengthening it (page 74)
The Core Breath: the foundation exercise every workout is built on — and how to find the cue that finally makes you feel it (page 78)
Adding the core breath to movement, then the four workouts: Foundation, Build, Strength, Power — with modifications for your symptoms and for training with prolapse (page 82)
Your first twelve weeks, mapped out — what to do in week one, when to add load, and what progress actually looks like (page 97)
Part 6 — Keeping It
Maintain and thrive — how to keep the results without it becoming another thing on the to-do list (page 101)
When it is not going to plan — what to check, and what it means (page 102)
How to build your pelvic health team — and the single most important appointment to book if you haven't already (page 104)
Questions I get asked constantly — including the honest answer to "is it too late for me?" (page 106)
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From: Kim Vopni, "The Vagina Coach" Vancouver, Canada
My interest in pelvic health started earlier than most.
In sixth grade, I watched a video about childbirth in school. It fascinated me.
It also scared me. I went home and asked my mom every question I could think of.
She was an operating room nurse, so she gave me straight answers.
She told me about her own births — episiotomies with both deliveries. That conversation lodged somewhere in my mind and didn't leave.
Years later, when I was in university, my mom had a hysterectomy.
It was the solution offered for her heavy bleeding.
She accepted it as what needed to happen.
Several years after that, she had surgery for incontinence.
I think about those moments now with everything I know, and I wonder:
What if she'd had access to more complete information?
What if someone had told her about pelvic floor physiotherapy, or about hormones, or that hysterectomy increases the risk of incontinence and prolapse?
Would she have needed those surgeries — or chosen them?
I don't know.
That Question Changed The Direction Of My Life
When my sister-in-law gave birth in 2002 and invited my husband and me into the room, something shifted in me.
Watching a woman birth her baby — supported, informed, surrounded by midwives — changed how I understood what the female body was capable of.
I became pregnant the following year.
I started researching everything I could about preparing the body for birth. A midwife mentioned a device called the EPI-NO.
I researched it, bought it, and used it to prepare for my births.
That decision is what led me to where I am today.
I contacted the manufacturer and asked to become their Canadian distributor. I got recertified as a personal trainer. I collaborated with and learned from pelvic health professionals.
I started talking to my personal training clients about pelvic health and leading in-person workshops and events. Women showed up hungry for information nobody had ever given them.
In 2009 I founded Kegels & Cocktails.
In 2011 I co-founded Bellies Inc.
In 2013 I launched a professional-level course to train other fitness professionals in how to work with women with core and pelvic floor challenges.
I became a certified Hypopressive Method trainer, a Restorative Exercise Specialist, an osteoporosis-certified trainer and a Certified Menopause Support Practitioner.
And through all of it — working with thousands of women over 20+ years — I kept hearing the same things.
"I didn't know this was a problem until it was already affecting everything."
"My doctor just told me to do Kegels and sent me home."
"I thought this was just what getting older felt like."
"Nobody told me this was preventable."
Nobody gave them the manual. This book is that manual — the answer I wish every one of those women had been given sooner.
It is straight-talking and built for real life — not a medical textbook, not a one-size-fits-all exercise plan.
A complete, honest guide to understanding your pelvic floor and taking back control of your body.
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"I've Tried Pelvic Floor Exercises Before — And They Didn't Work"
And that's exactly why you need this book.
If exercises alone haven't worked...
It's almost certainly because you were doing the wrong type for your specific situation...
Or doing them incorrectly (the research shows the majority of women are)...
Or missing the other half of the equation — the pressure management, the breathing, the posture, and the lifestyle factors that determine whether exercises work or don't.
This book shows you the complete picture — not just the exercises.
Oh, And In Case You're Wondering...
There Is NO CATCH!
I am giving you this book for free. All you pay for is shipping. That's it!
You pay the shipping. You get the book. That's it.
So why am I doing this?
A few honest reasons:
Because I believe every woman deserves this information. My mother didn't have it. I didn't have it either, and figured out a lot on my own along the way — in part because of my own struggles. Millions of women don't have this information and need it. I've spent over 20 years trying to change that, and this book is the most accessible thing I've ever created.
Because once you read it, you'll know what's possible — and what to do to prevent or overcome your challenges. And when you're ready to go deeper — whether that's our programs, or simply going to a good pelvic health physiotherapist — you'll know exactly what to do.
Because I've seen what happens when women don't have this. They suffer in silence for years. They accept surgery as inevitable. They stop exercising, stop socializing, stop feeling like themselves. That doesn't have to be your story.
All I ask is that you cover the cost of shipping so I can get this into your hands.
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Thanks for taking the time to read this letter. I hope this book becomes the turning point you've been looking for.
With warmth,
Kim Vopni The Vagina Coach
P.S. In case you skipped to the bottom — here's what this is: I'm mailing you a complete copy of Common, Not Normal, a straight-talking guide to understanding and healing your pelvic floor at any age — absolutely free.
You pay only £6.95 for shipping in the UK. No catch. If you don't love it, email us and we'll refund your shipping. You don't even need to send the book back. Click the button below and tell me where to send it.
Kim Vopni is a certified fitness professional and self-professed pelvic health evangelist who has spent 20+ years helping women navigate pelvic floor dysfunction across pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause, and beyond.
She is the founder of Pelvienne Wellness Inc. and co-founder of Buff Muff Wellness Inc., and the creator of a professional-level education program that has trained thousands of fitness and movement professionals around the world.
She is a certified Hypopressive Method Trainer, Restorative Exercise Specialist, Certified Menopause Support Practitioner, and Certified Osteoporosis Fitness Specialist — among other qualifications.
She has authored three books, spoken at over 30 events internationally, and has over 400 free educational videos on YouTube.
You can find her at vaginacoach.com and @vaginacoach on all platforms.
Frequently Asked Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes. The book is free — you pay only £6.95 to cover shipping and handling in the UK. That's it. No hidden charges, no subscription.
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Who is this book for?
Any woman who wants to understand her pelvic floor — whether she's dealing with leaking, urgency, prolapse, pain, or simply wants to stay ahead of these issues as she ages.
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No more pads
I am so much better I don't wear pads anymore
Denise ●Verified reader
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No longer a problem
Now I don't feel I have incontinence problem anymore
Jackie ●Verified reader
★★★★★
Back in control
I have gotten complete control over my bladder now
That Question Changed The Direction Of My Life
Teaching women what nobody had told themToday: 20+ years and 100,000+ women
My mom accepted it as what needed to happen.
Several years after that, she had surgery for incontinence.
I think about those moments now with everything I know, and I wonder:
What if she'd had access to more complete information?
What if someone had told her about pelvic floor physiotherapy, or about hormones, or that hysterectomy increases the risk of incontinence and prolapse?
Would she have needed those surgeries, or chosen them?
I don't know.
When my sister-in-law gave birth in 2002 and invited my husband and me into the room, something shifted in me.
Watching a woman birth her baby, supported, informed, surrounded by midwives, changed how I understood what the female body was capable of.
I became pregnant the following year.
I started researching everything I could about preparing the body for birth. A midwife mentioned a device called the EPI-NO.
I researched it, bought it, and used it to prepare for my births.
That decision is what led me to where I am today.
I contacted the manufacturer and asked to become their Canadian distributor. I got recertified as a personal trainer. I collaborated with and learned from pelvic health professionals.
I started talking to my personal training clients about pelvic health and leading in-person workshops and events.
Women showed up hungry for information nobody had ever given them.
In 2009 I founded Kegels & Cocktails
In 2011 I co-founded Bellies Inc.
In 2013 I launched a professional-level course to train fitness professionals to work with women with core and pelvic floor challenges
I became a certified Hypopressive Method trainer, a Restorative Exercise Specialist, an osteoporosis-certified trainer and a Certified Menopause Support Practitioner
And through all of it, working with thousands of women over 20+ years, I kept hearing the same things.
"I didn't know this was a problem until it was already affecting everything."
"My doctor just told me to do Kegels and sent me home."
"I thought this was just what getting older felt like."
"Nobody told me this was preventable."
Nobody Gave Them The Manual.
This book is that manual, the answer I wish every one of those women had been given sooner.
It is straight-talking and built for real life. Not a medical textbook, not a one-size-fits-all exercise plan.
A complete, honest guide to understanding your pelvic floor and taking back control of your body.
Why Am I Giving This Book Away 100% Free Of Charge?
Well, there are actually 2 reasons...
1) Because my mom never had this information.
She was an operating room nurse.
She had a hysterectomy, and years later surgery for incontinence.
Nobody ever told her about pelvic floor physiotherapy, or hormones, or that a hysterectomy raises the risk of incontinence and prolapse.
I've spent 20+ years making sure other women get the information she never had.
And this book is the most accessible thing I've ever created.
2) Because I'd rather show you than tell you.
I could try to convince you that this approach works.
I'd rather just put it in your hands.
Once you read it, you'll know what's possible.
And when you're ready to go deeper, whether that's one of our programs or simply booking a good pelvic health physiotherapist, you'll know exactly what to do.
Women who understand their pelvic floor stop putting up with "common". They get their lives back.
P.S. In case you skipped to the bottom: I'm mailing you a complete copy of Common, Not Normal, my straight-talking guide to understanding and healing your pelvic floor at any age, absolutely free.
You pay only £6.95 for shipping in the UK. No catch, no subscription.
If you don't love it, email us and we'll refund your shipping. You don't even need to send the book back.